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Tuesday, February 23, 2010

a gesture :(

I am not sure how to start…I am confused, stomach in knots…and just plain pissed…yesterday one of my daycare kids told me about her teacher making the limp wrist hand gesture against her chest at school to her and her friend…HER TEACHER…the same teacher that Max will have next year…so now do I not send him…do I talk with the teacher…I emailed the principal…so I guess that is were I have started…I am sick…this is the reality that I hate…that is so hard for me…that a person makes a gesture and it is a huge slap in the face…how can people use the “r” word or make a gesture at leisure like it is nothing…it is my little girl…my baby…and it is SOOOO personal…I guess logically I get both sides of the argument…should we sensor language…I do not have that answer…but I do know that the “r” word or gesture physically draws a reaction from me…I get sick with a nervous stomach…I did not realize how this was going to be…no one could ever prepared me for this…I have read others peoples incidents with this…and I always wondered how I would react…I thought I was better prepared for this….I was terribly wrong…I get that this is members only club…but how can you look at my pig tailed little girl and think that this language and hate is ok or funny…last month she was officially diagnosed as “m.r”…did this change my reaction today…maybe…before for some reason...she was born with Down Syndrome…not “m.r”…I know the hard reality of Down Syndrome…I just like to think that we have made HUGE strides and that she will be ok just enhanced! the tears keep coming…and stomach will not untie…it is to soon for Max to fight this battle…and it is to soon for me to have the conversation with him…he thinks Maddie is just perfect...and she is…just hard when you are the mommy…and you have to explain that you cannot fix everything…I get that Max does not know about what transpired…but I am forever the mommy and thinking what and how should I handle this best for my kiddos to be the best example…and I have not a clue…


  1. I'm terribly sorry. You SHOULDN'T have to go through this, but you will. Maybe this will be the only time. I hope so.

    K, you're on the right track with talking about it. Talk to the teacher directly if you can. She needs to know that YOU know and that it is unacceptable. You don't have to yell or cry or even show the depth of your hurt to her, but be firm. You will not accpept her behaviour for not only Max but for his peers.


  2. Oh, I just want to give you a hug. I wish I had an answer but you are right... it is a members-only club in some ways... This morning I read an article and it made me cry so hard to think that there are people who believe such horrible things about my baby girl.

    You did the right thing. Hard to believe even teachers need to be educated but they do.

  3. Appalling that a teacher would stoop to a childish schoolyard behavior. I would talk with the teacher -- could there possibly be a misunderstanding (one could hope)? Yes, another slap, but if you talk to the teacher, you will know both sides and be able to share your perspective.

  4. Wow! I haven't seen anyone make that gesture since gradeschool...how immature of that teacher! My daughter is only 9 months so I have yet to have my first "encounter". But, know that the rest of the T21 club is forever on your side...I am so sorry that you had to go through this.

    Kelli @ http://livinglifewithes.blogspot.com