Friday, September 28, 2012


"kjsdj skdjf kj ojn" "your welcome Maddie" "we friends"...a conversation that went on between Maddie and friends...it went on and on for a good 20 minutes or so...Maddie and the kids were cutting flowers and putting them in big pots...when Maddie plays with other kiddos that are in her inner circle they get her...they understand her...she is able to express to them her part...she is working on taking turns when speaking...she loves to role play with others...so I was taken back the other day when we were at the pool and she was talking to some older folks and they were so worried about what she was saying and asking why they and I could not understand her they forgot to talk with her...they just laughed at her...these are old people I get it...but when they talk with me I don't just laugh at them...I talk with them I head nod...I am nice...I finally told them to just talk with her and that she will continue to have a conversation with them...or just stop laughing at her and she will go away...I am not sure where the disconnect happens in humans to be cruel...when extra chromosomes deserves a look over and no acknowledgement or laugh in the face...kiddos are innately good...they see truth...they see nice...they learn hate and discrimination...Maddie is 3 years old and she gets it...she is fully capable of having her feeling hurt...she understands everything you say to her...she may not want to hear you and ignore you...but she gets it...and this is a prime example why I hesitate to let Maddie venture into public...the other day Maddie went on her first field trip with her class to the fire station...I originally said no to field trips...to scary...the teacher called and asked permission...we discussed it and decided it was good for Maddie...plus I had a insider there to help watch over Maddie...he is a family friend and a firefighter and he said she was awesome...participated with all the activities and was appropriate, self controlled, and eager to be there...not sure that could have gone any better...and I know she thrives without me...I am her safe place and she needs to be uncomfortable to learn...today I handed her scissors to cut flowers and she made sure they were placed the safe way in her little hands...these are all big moments in our world...a world I am scared to let Maddie out in...because of the communication piece that is not there...but in our little world she communicates very effectively...very appropriate...I can see the importance of her in school early intervention...i can also see why I have to let her out and go...because she has to learn what to say and do when she is offended or thankful...she has to learn to effectively survive in this world...I am sad it has to be so young...but as I go through this I see the importance of the village...

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  1. I don't understand why that older couple did that. That's just rude. At the very least they should humor a cute child, and chat back, whether they can understand her or not. Bizarre. I love how you're learing to let go a little - Maddie is *blossoming* in the world with the amazing support she has surrounding her out there and at home. So wonderful to hear about the fire station outing!!

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  3. Owen doesn't understand all that I say, not at all and people speak way above his level it makes me sad, and I would dread having him somewhere like a fire station, he would be a nightmare

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  4. *sigh*...I think that was pretty rude of those older people also. Russell is extremely sensitive and he KNOWS when people are laughing at him...He gets really upset and will throw himself to the floor. I just hope in the future people are patient with him and respect him...And not laugh at him.
    Oh Kim, you should have attached that picture of Maddie in the fireman hat you posted on Fb, it was super cute!

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  7. Um , ya...I have no idea why that one comment posted itself a billion times! Sorry, lol

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  8. rude for sure...

    Okay, a village. I am slowly starting to get this too. Though I hate it at times, I see that for Kristen this is truly important. Tough for me though..

    Sounds like a great field trip. They shock you all the time, huh?

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