Monday, July 11, 2011

not so much

I intensely dislike (hate) feeding Maddie...mealtime is like an awful roller-coaster...with lots of ups and downs and unexpected turns and rolls...she is not constricting her airway at every meal so that is a positive...but her not just sitting and eating is awful...and the time it takes for her to self feed and for me to squeeze in assisted bites is just overwhelming...some minutes are better then others...Maddie thinks we need to play, read, scream, talk on the phone and throw EVERYTHING...and for good measure spit her food at me to round out the awesome experience...I have tried no toys, books, cell phones...but she screams and points until they make there way to her tray...I have tried her sitting on stools, at the table, on the table...her feeding herself, me feeding her...no high chair...just walking around the house and me following her with a bite of food...I get she is two and very social...but no one feeds her but me...she will not take food from others...I am not sure if she is manipulating me or if it truly is a need for her...if Maddie was not so cute and bursting with greatness...our mealtime experience may be a little less interesting...I know I should just be thankful she eats sometimes...and another tooth popped out yesterday but is gone today...it came up almost behind her one tooth in the front...so maybe it will come out in the "right" place when it decides to appear again...I am very nervous about her teeth...she is 26 months old and has 4 molars and one front bottom tooth...the doctors tell me not to worry...but I do...I just think meal time could be more productive and satisfying if she had teeth to assist in her chewing...sorry about the pout...but I just had to let it go...and prepare myself for dinner!

9 comments:

  1. I can't even imagine how frustrating that must be! I consider myself very fortunate and lucky that we haven't had too many feeding issues, I'm pretty sure it would throw me over the edge!

    I hope that those teeth decide to make their way out soon and that it helps with some of the issues! Have you been to a pediatric dentist? Maybe they can do x-rays to see what's going on in there? Chin up, this too shall pass! :)

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  2. I am not going to say you should go to the dentist - because right now I am SO sick of appointments, that I am not going to suggest it to anyone else. Instead Hugs ((()))) and an "I get you", I really do, things like this are so frustating and you have to go through this at least 3 X a day everyday, emotionally tiring. Viv.

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  3. The teeth thing was the main reason we were so skittish about feeding Samantha chunky solids - she didn't chew. Still not sure if it was because we were so cautious that she didn't chew (no need to since we were giving her mush because we were paranoid), or if she wouldn't have chewed anyway and we did what we had to do. Ugh, hopefully your feeding issues will resolve themselves! Ours finally did, and I am soooooo grateful that we can now go anywhere we want without having to take nearly a whole fridge-full of *her* food with us to be sure we'd have something she could eat. And I still want to know how my child could be so good at spitting food out but can't grasp the concept yet of spitting out her toothpaste. ((hugs))

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  4. Feeding issues suck. I'm sorry you are going through this. I've never had the exact problem you are talking about, but getting my daughter to eat has been a constant struggle since she was born. I feel for you and want you to know you are not alone. {{{hugs}}}

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  5. You deserve to "pout". Parenting is so hard. I was having my moment today too, but this makes me realize I should suck it up.

    My Calvin is not much of an eater and I'm going to be leaning on you for support in a yr from now :)

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  6. I am so glad you have a place to come to and vent...blogs can be so therapeutic. I cannot imagine what you are feeling because we did not have feeding issues...other issues...but not feeding. Sounds like you are trying everything so keep up the good work. Battles with two year olds can be tough no matter what the challenge at hand is...they are tricky little things. Hang in there! :)

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  7. I am always nervous feeding Russell. He is just now starting to get his back teeth, so all this time he hasn't really CHEWED his food. He kind of just swishes it around and then swallows. So that makes it hard to find food he can actually eat. So I hear ya, feeding time is not my favorite either :(

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  8. Ack! Meals are crazy, stressful times here, too. My guy has intense oral/texture aversions and lots of gagging issues. Meals are always a battle. It WILL get better some day, right? Right!

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  9. I feel your pain! We have a super picky eater over here and meal times can be VERY frustrating. We are adding feeding therapy to our already busy schedule, I hope it works!

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