Thursday, July 21, 2011

its fine...


Everything will be fine…yep it will…because that statement is said and used so loosely…to make me as a parent feel better…I actually like that statement...I use it a lot in my head…whether it used when Max spills water into the laptop and fries it…or when I am talking with someone about Maddie and her development…Maddie’s development is so up in the air…and part of letting go is letting go to what I think should be happening and what is actually happening…Maddie is good for Maddie…and will everything be fine…sure it will because we will get use to it…we will adapt to make it fine…Maddie’s speech is on the verge or making me VERY nervous…she babbles, she inserts nuances in her speech and she string words together…she is starting to sign more and more…but with her being 2 years old comes her personality…like any two year old she wants things NOW and gets VERY frustrated when we do not understand…I would get frustrated to…will everything be fine…sure…Maddie will learn more and more signs…we will better learn to understand her words and communication...her communication is a big reason...I cannot see putting her in preschool right now…how will she be heard if no one can understand her…and how will I know if there is a problem if she cannot tell me…will she be fine either way…sure…but with my need for control and over thinking comes worry…next week our local Child Development Center is having a play night for kiddos…and a learning session for parents…but I have to leave Maddie with others…I love Maddie’s teachers and if they will stay with her the whole time…then I would consider going…but I know there are other kiddos…and that there is not just my girl in the room…I know I need to let go…but I am not sure I can…yes this would be great for Maddie…and probably great for us…and yes everything will be fine…but to put my Maddie in others hands is HUGE…I think I would rather stay and watch Maddie play with others then go and mingle with adults…what if I miss a HUGE milestone with her…what if a child is not nice to her…what if she cries…so much so fast…everything will be fine I will just keep repeating this in my head!

7 comments:

  1. I know it's hard to let go. And I also know that a lot of parents wait until their child is 3 before they put them into preschool. I ALSO know that I went through the exact same feelings and fears when Samantha was 2, but we put her into preschool then anyway. We were sooo amazed with what she learned there! She loved the environment, and the teacher and aides were nurturing and took excellent care of her. Our comfort level increased over time. You'll definitely make the right decision, either way, for Maddie - there is no wrong! Just wanted to let you know what we did. :-)

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  2. It is hard to let go, but I'm glad that Claire is in a daycare center. She loves the teachers, and the other kids. It also helps with her routine and I'm sure will make the actual transition to preschool easier.

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  3. I know that feeling...Leaving your child in some one elses care IS scary and a HUGE deal! I know I cant do it yet with Russell...There is just no way...Maybe one day in the future though I will be at that point. I don't think there is a magical age where a parent NEEDS to finally be ok with it, everyone is different. Just do what feels right for you and for Madds :)

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  4. We are dealing with the same communication challenges - little dude is about to turn 2 and is getting so frustrated that he can't communicate his needs and wants. And I can so elate with not wanting to leave her! But you are right, in the end, everything will be fine. I say that to myself all the time and it works! :)

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  5. Hey I have been away in the big smoke and I have missed your last week of posts so I have just caught up and all I can say is wow, you are amazing ! and I wish we lived close and I could have a glass of wine with you and just kick back for a few hours of chat and tears and hugs.with love Viv

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  6. Letting go is the hardest thing, especially with our kids with DS. I know I cried the first day I dropped Kristen off at her typical preschool. Worried about the whole communication thing too. But, we have to give our children the opportunity to be out there too...even if it is the hardest thing in the world to do. Maddie will surprise you every time...I promise. Each time you let go, the next time becomes that much easier. If you surround Maddie with people who want her there and want what is best for you, it will be great...for you, for Maddie, and for everyone's life she is touching. :)

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  7. Everytime I put Es in the church nursery I worry. Will she roll off of something? Will they not realize her age and treat her like a younger baby? Will she get any attention at all? I focus on the fact that the more variety of interaction she receives, the better her progress will be. The same is for Maddie. Plus, their lives will be better for meeting her too!
    -erin

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