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Saturday, May 28, 2011

ease up...mama

I can do it...that is what Maddie is telling me...Maddie has become so independent...as she gains more steps across the floor...it seems other things have just fallen into place...the other day when discussing Maddie's assessment...one of the questions was does Maddie self feed...I said she can...but I do not let her...I dont because I am scared that she will obstruct her airway...but by me not letting her...meal time becomes a horrible experience for the both of us...so last week I decided to let go of my need to control...EVERYTHING about Maddie...I do I try to control what she does, who she interacts with, what she puts in her mouth...everything...and she is telling me to stop...so I gave her the fork...and she ate...and ate...no books, no games, no singing, no nothing just food in mouth...no obstructed airway...I have began letting Maddie snack...
fine motor
check out my tooth!
I know it does not seem like a big deal...but again that requires more self reliance...and me letting go of my fears...I have been so caught up for so long on what she MAY not be able to do...I have prevented her from doing things she clearly can do...so I am a big fan of getting dirty...but not for Maddie...I like her clean...and cute...but again I let this go...last week Maddie played in puddles, shaving cream, paint and mashed potatoes...slowly I am letting Maddie do it...and stepping back and letting her be a kid...
painting...I like to eat it to...

I thought I would love it...
Maddie has gotten so stink'n big and it seems it has happened over night....Maddie is a big girl and she is telling her over bearing mama to step back! so for all my complaining about Maddie not walking, talking and self eating...I am admitting I miss my baby...my little girl that loved to cuddle and needed her mom...now Maddie is go go go...and that is a big high five for my girl...


  1. It's so hard to let go. I have had a hard time with both my kids but especially Lucas. I guess I just don't know exactly what he's capable of and that scares me. I want to protect him always.

    BTW, I think it's pretty cool that she's so independent and lets you know it ;)

  2. I am like this with Russell. Sometimes I feel I hold him back because I am scared he is not ready to do it. Self feeding scares me a little, I am paraniod about Russell choking, so I feed him...sigh...Letting go is hard. I know its something I have to learn to do though, for Russells sake.
    Ad it is so cool that Madds is so independent!

  3. That is a big high five for Maddie! That sense of independence is so hard for us moms to encourage but so great to see in our kids! That trait will take her far...she is a ROCKSTAR too!!! :)

  4. Ah, good for Maddie! ...and good for you!

    I hope you are having a great week-end!

  5. Haha - I let Max self feed by hand, but no way do I give that kid a fork or spoon - he makes a big enough mess as it is :)

  6. I totally get it. It's so hard to know where to draw the line with our kids sometimes. She's doing great and so are you! Hope you have a great holiday weekend!

  7. Look at how big she looks in that last picture...I love it! I think there is a balance and I have yet to find it! Sometimes I think I go too far the other direction and expect Sutter to know/understand/do too much. I think it's great that Maddie is showing/telling you that she's ready for more big kid things...including eating!!! It's great to see how far she's come in just a short time!

    Happy 3 day weekend!!!

  8. It is hard to let go! And I've been working on not worrying so much about the messes when Claire eats...except for when I am already late for work in the morning. We can't do messes then!