Monday, April 9, 2012

that mom...

Maddie had her surgery...it went well...she will be dilated again in 3 short weeks...so that really was not the interesting part of day...thankfully...we got there and I purposefully eat in the car while Maddie sleeps...when she wakes up all food and drink are hidden...I just don't think it is nice to eat and drink when she cant...and it saves a lot of tears when I have to say no...so we arrive at the surgical center and Maddie makes her grand entrance...greets everyone...we check in and it is nice that I have gotten to know the staff, nurses and even some of the other doctors...because Maddie is so stink'n likable and cute she really has a fan club...which does not help with her little look at me attitude...as Maddie listens to her ipad of music she dances and sings and is happy to oblige in small talk and smiles...Maddie was a rockstar helping put herself to sleep by holding the air mask...as she drifted away I felt ok with letting the doctor and nurses have her...I trust them -now...I like that feeling and it helps that they put on Maddie's favorite music and favorite smelling stuff to help her go to sleep...they just make it a positive experience...and that helps...more then ever! so I leave Maddie and go back to the waiting room...I have the ipad and I am ready to read and just quietly sit in peace...enter the scene...a young mother is sitting with her toddler...the child asks for a drink...she gives her some water in a sippy cup...she lets her drink -alot...the little girl wants more...and begins screaming for more...the mother sits and texts...not making eye contact with anyone in the room...at this time her child is screaming at the top of her lungs and throwing herself on the ground...never did she look up to do a I am sorry smile...she just texted...she never once responded or talked to her daughter...not consoling her -nothing...so the nurse comes out and now it is clear the little girl is the one having the surgery...and why she could not drink...so as they leave the room the mother tells the nurse that the little girl is "pissed off" at her...that she took away her sippy cup...of course the nurse says why did she have a sippy cup...did she drink...the mom lied and said a little...I am not sure why the mother did not just hide the sippy cup in the first place...never allowing the child to have it...now the child will throw up and be sick after anesthesia...but not sure this mother gets it...I really try not to judge...I think having Maddie has shown me that everyone judges and for the most part the judgment is misinformed and wrong...the thing here is that the mother set her child up for this...she gave in to the first drink...and in consequence there was a fit...and in further consequence a delay in the little girls surgery and now she has to go threw this again...the funny part was when she left the room the whole room began talking to her...before her we were strangers...after her we were buddies...everyone had an opinion...everyone had a solution...I was just thankful it was not me...mind you it has been me...but I am the parent profusely saying sorry...and giving courteous smiles...and promising my kid a kitchen sink and a new dog if they stop...but what scares me is the lack of response from the mother...that just texted...is that her coping mechanism...how did she get so lucky not to care what others think...how did she get the gene of screw you all I know what is best...all I could think is I bet she has the kid that goes to sleep at night by herself with out having to be rocked...and she is the mother that can just have a day off from mothering and not feeling guilty...sometimes I wish I could turn off my guilt...but then again I think I would be lost with out it...it is a good morality check...

4 comments:

  1. You are an amazing mom and that is why you are the way you are. You do not want to be the mom that can just take a day off and not feel guilty because that is not you...and that is what makes you a good mom. Oh, those moms we see out there that make us cringe. We try not to judge but it is so hard. I am sure others are always judging me back too...

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  2. I try not to judge other Moms...But sometimes I do, lol...I can't stand when a Mom is busy playing with her cell phone while her kid runs around a waiting room raising hell and being a general pain in the ass...Why people feel the need to constantly be connected with everyone else I'll never know! Maybe I am a wee bit anti social...But I just don't feel the need to update my FB status every where I go or text everyone on the planet 24/7...Ya, I guess I am anti social, but that's ok, I can live with that! Haha

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  3. I don't think you can turn off guilt, maybe dull it and beat it back into a corner. I like my guilt, keeps me from slacking where I shouldn't. I also don't guilt myself to death either. I know I'm a hinderment to my childs growth when I constantly watch over there every single move and when I stand back I find I'm the one learning. Love you lots...miss maddie is a rock star!

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  4. Oh, so sad for that other child. :-( Clueless mother, will cause way more harm than good in the long run when that child rebels. You're an awesome mome, and I'm so glad Maddie did well in surgery!

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