tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3825000868976601610.post1691746354253281942..comments2023-10-28T05:24:47.518-07:00Comments on Chromosomally Enhanced: Selfish Grieving...Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06551567304485458524noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3825000868976601610.post-71085636627038755502010-10-28T12:33:23.900-07:002010-10-28T12:33:23.900-07:00grief is such a complex emotion, one that many peo...grief is such a complex emotion, one that many people don't allow themselves to feel or process completely. i imagine that people who would question your love for your daughter have some unresolved grief to deal with themselves. thank you for such blatant honesty. i can see that you are a great support to many people!Erika Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01243906946563471478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3825000868976601610.post-10942952792997365922010-10-27T17:58:03.223-07:002010-10-27T17:58:03.223-07:00I can totally sympathize with you...when we first ...I can totally sympathize with you...when we first had Emily someone from our church came to visit us and when my husband explained that he was feeling "disappointed" she said "you don't mean that"...and he absolutely did. Those who have never been through this unique grieving process will never understand how it feels to love the child you have but to mourn the loss of the one you dreamed of.Runningmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15248750625897632738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3825000868976601610.post-76400797435097680462010-10-27T14:03:47.368-07:002010-10-27T14:03:47.368-07:00THIS is exactly how I feel!! I feel like if I ever...THIS is exactly how I feel!! I feel like if I ever say or write that I am sad about Down syndrome, that I atomaticaly have to say right after how much I love Russell, like I have to defend my feelings for him...I am afriad if I dont people will misunderstand what I am trying to say. The honest truth is the only people who REALLY get how I feel are other Moms who have children with Down syndrome.JChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16040699928110444013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3825000868976601610.post-17434316230337033472010-10-27T13:17:06.471-07:002010-10-27T13:17:06.471-07:00Thank you for posting this. There are so many of ...Thank you for posting this. There are so many of us out there who feel the same way, feel guilty for feeling it, and alone in it. It's nice to know we are not, that we are, in fact, perfectly sane and "normal" in our feelings. Because there are days where we grieve for what we thought we were going to have/see in our children doesn't mean that we don't love who they are any less.Following our Arrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10477489693492979644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3825000868976601610.post-70886105524598742072010-10-27T12:57:30.062-07:002010-10-27T12:57:30.062-07:00UGH! I hate that you even have to deal with people...UGH! I hate that you even have to deal with people like that....really, who are "they" to judge how much you love Maddie?! I think it's very clear that you ADORE her and yet it is perfectly normal to still feel confused, conflicted and sad with the DS....not Maddie! Some people will just never "get it"....I do! :)Wrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12859270873501744398noreply@blogger.com